I’m sure a lot of you have had it, your partner tells you that they have to go away with work or they’ve planned a boys holiday. You sit there panicking, thinking, I’m going to have to do all the parenting myself?! For how long?!
I had this exact experience at the start of January. My husband was starting a new job and had to go away Sunday to Friday every week for 4.5 weeks on training. That was 21 days of lone parenting. 21 long days of parenting.
I was very fortunate that my mum is off work on a Tuesday, meaning I always had plans one day the week, but the rest of the week was generally a blank page that needed plans. Oliver isn’t the kind of baby that is happy to sit at home all day everyday, and he would get bored of just seeing me. He needs to be stimulated and out and about.
My top tips for solo parenting
- Make meals and freeze them – Oliver hangs around like a bad smell when I’m cooking, he always wants to be picked up and watch what I’m doing. So just having something ready, I could defrost and heat up was a godsend.
- Make plans – not having that adult contact when your partner gets home from work means you will go mad. So make plans, you need some adult conversation.
- Get out – whether it’s meeting friends, a walk, a trip to the park, the supermarket or the shops. Just don’t spend all your time at home, again, you will go mad!
- Make sure you have a bottle of gin (or your tipple of choice) in. All I wanted at the end of a hard day when Oliver was asleep was a nice gin!
- Have a good TV series to watch – Netflix was my new best friend. I caught up on everything I had missed and could watch the programmes Stu doesn’t like.
And my final piece of advice would be, when your partner does get home, let them take the child/children for a few hours! You can get a bit of relaxing me time in. You deserve it!
This post first appeared on Meet Other Mums where I am a regular blogger. Please go and check it out as there are some brilliant other blogs there!