Family

Family

Family is probably the most important thing in our lives, we are very lucky to have quite a large family, well on Stu’s side at least.  My immediate family only consists of mum and my sister, my dad left us 9 years ago and moved to Germany.  He went on to have another two daughters, sadly he and one of my half sisters were killed in a car crash in Germany almost 3 years ago, I never met her and I have only met my other half sister twice.  On the other hand Stuart has a very big family, he’s one of four, he has an identical twin brother, an older brother and an older sister (who is also married with two daughters). His parents got divorced when he was younger and have both remarried, so he has two sets of parents and along with them a few step siblings!

Since having Oliver we have really learnt the true value of family, you take your parents for granted until you have your own child.  I think we both realised how much our parents do for us, and how much they really love us.  When I look at Oliver my heart is bursting with love for him, I didn’t know what it meant to give unconditional love until I held him for the first time.  I would do anything and everything for him, and I know Stu would too.  My mum is over here most days and she loves seeing Oliver growing and developing, she says she loves him even more than she loves my sister and I!  Stu’s dad and his step-mum are great grandparents too, they dote on Oliver and I can see them having a great bond when he gets older.  Because Stu’s mum lives in Wales she sadly doesn’t see us as much she/we would like to, but the moments we do spend together are precious and extra special for her and us.  She really loves her grandchildren.  I’m sure when Oliver gets older we will do plenty of facetiming so he knows her just as well.

When I was growing up my grandparents both lived far from us, my grandpa in South West London and my dads parents on the outskirts of Nottingham.  We saw my dads parents once maybe twice a year, but my Grandpa we saw more often, maybe about four or five times a year.  I went on a few holidays with my granny and grandpa during my childhood and I was quite close to them, my Grandpa gave me away at our wedding before he passed away and my granny just adores Oliver.  Stuart’s grandparents mostly lived quite local to him (he had 3 sets!) and he has such a great bond with his granny and grandma because of it.  He moved in with his Granny for 6 months just before we moved in together and they got really close in this time, she’s a good friend to us, as well as a grandparent!  I think it’s so nice that Oliver will hopefully have very close relationships to all of his grandparents like his daddy, it’s so important to look out for the older generations.

It’s been so great seeing how our siblings rose to the challenge of becoming aunts and uncles.  My sister was so excited to become an aunt, when my mum told her Oliver had arrived early on a Saturday morning, she hopped in her car and drove back from university in Loughborough, just so she could be one of his first visitors.  She made the almost 3 hour trip nearly every weekend until she finished university, because she didn’t want to miss anything, and over the summer she was over visiting most days.  Now she is up in London doing a masters and is really missing him!  He’s very lucky to have such a loving auntie.  Stu’s brothers are great uncles too, they are both men who say they don’t want children (or at least not now), but it’s great to see how they care for Oliver.  His older brother is always the first to go in for a cuddle, and we try to see him as often as we can.  Stu’s twin is both of our best friend, so he spends a lot of time with us and Oliver, they will definitely have a very special relationship when Oliver gets older, he and Stu are determined to turn Oliver into a car enthusiast as soon as he starts walking and talking!

It’s so nice to have our families close by and for Oliver to grow up knowing his family well.  He will hopefully be really close to all of his grandparents, as well as his aunt and uncles, I hope he will be able to go to them when he doesn’t want to come to us.  Family is so important and I want him to grow up knowing that.  My best friends are my sister and my mum, Stuart’s is his twin brother, I hope Oliver grows up being close to his sibling/s (not that we are planning anymore quite yet)!

Family are always there for you, no matter what you do, no matter what you say, and they love unconditionally.  You only get one, so treasure it!

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  1. Alice Scott
    September 25, 2016 / 9:43 pm

    This is such a cute post, and you’re right I was so so excited to become Oliver’s auntie!! He is the best little nephew and has a very special place in my heart!! Love you Lou-Lou!!! Xxx

  2. September 26, 2016 / 8:28 pm

    Lovely post and introduction to your family. I find it fascinating, sad and hopeful how families are never static, always changing as generations grow and people pass away. I have no brothers and sisters but my dad is one of three and so is my wife. I felt very lucky to become a part of her bigger family and we have had amazing times with her cousins on her mums side. Sorry to read about losing your dad but happy to see what love Oliver has around him. #marvmondays

    • mummymiller
      September 26, 2016 / 8:29 pm

      Thank you, family is brilliant!

  3. September 30, 2016 / 3:46 pm

    What a lovely post! I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad, that must have been devastating. It sounds like you have a close knit and lovely family though. We have a small family but we’re really close to my parents, and our aunts, uncles and cousins. I had my little boy at the same time as my sister had hers, so we became mothers together and it’s been wonderful to go through that at the same time. I completely agree about not truly appreciating your parents until you become one too – I suddenly had such a strong respect for everything they’d done for me. And I love watching them as grandparents, there’s nothing like it! Thanks so much for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

    • mummymiller
      September 30, 2016 / 4:15 pm

      I had quite a small family growing up, and we are very similar to yours with. Wing close to the extended family! It’s just with the addition of my husbands it’s grown somewhat! It must be lovely to have had babies at the same time, the only person with children in our family is Stuart’s sister whose girls are 1 and 3 years older than Oliver but we don’t see them much at all!

  4. October 1, 2016 / 11:05 pm

    This is such a beautiful. Families never seem to be straightforward. Its lovely to hear how the grandparents are so involved. I didn’t get to see mine much as they lived in Mauritius. I remember adopting the old lady next door as my pretend grandma when I was about 9 years old! It’s really special you have your mum so close by to help out. You’re right, we take for granted what our parents have done for us growing up. Now we understand why they will always worry about us regardless of how old we are! #KCACOLS

    • mummymiller
      October 1, 2016 / 11:10 pm

      It’s sad when they live so far away, they do miss out on so much, but the moments you spend with them are so much more special!

  5. October 2, 2016 / 12:08 am

    My parents live very close to us so they are incredibly handy to have around for childcare! They love our little one and he loves spending time with them so it’s all good! #KCACOLS

    • mummymiller
      October 2, 2016 / 12:10 am

      Yes they are! My mum is planning on having Oliver one day a week when I return to work, so it will be great! His eyes light up and he gets so excited when she comes over to see him!

  6. October 2, 2016 / 8:24 pm

    What a gorgeous collection of photos! Oliver as a newborn is so squishy, and your sister sounds like an absolute peach making that trip to see you every weekend. Thanks so much for linking up at #KCACOLS. Hope you come back again next Sunday.

  7. October 2, 2016 / 8:57 pm

    What a lovely post. You sound like you have a strong family around you. I completely agree that you never quite realise how much parents mean, until you have your own little one. Thank you for linking up to the #DreamTeam. x

  8. October 2, 2016 / 10:21 pm

    This is a beautiful post and gorgeous photos. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad, that must have been really hard for you. I’m really close to my immediate family and we see each other all the time, I can’t imagine my girls not seeing them regularly. I love seeing them with my parents, it makes my heart melt. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove X

    • mummymiller
      October 2, 2016 / 10:23 pm

      It’s just so special seeing them with grandparents! I couldn’t imagine not seeing our families either! X

  9. October 3, 2016 / 9:04 am

    Lovely pictures hun! #bigpinklink

    • mummymiller
      October 7, 2016 / 8:28 am

      Thanks!

  10. October 3, 2016 / 11:31 am

    This is such a beautiful post! I am so sorry to hear about your dad – that is really awful. Family are so important, and I am lucky having a few family members close by (my mum, brother, sister and cousin have all followed us to the same part of London which is nice). And my husband’s family all visit often (his parents are retired and his sister is close by)! I wish I got to see my dad more but nevermind! #KCACLS

  11. October 3, 2016 / 1:31 pm

    Such a lovely post! I lost my Mum when I was 2 months pregnant and that really forced me to re-evaluate family. I mean I always valued them but you can start to take things for granted when you expect them to always be there… It sounds like your little boy has a brilliant support network around him which he’ll value so much as he grows up! #KCACOLS

    • mummymiller
      October 3, 2016 / 2:13 pm

      I’m sorry to hear that, thank you for reading x

  12. Baby Anon
    October 3, 2016 / 1:33 pm

    This is lovely. Family is everything, when you take away all the material stuff, they’re all that matters. Lovely pics too #bigpinklink

    • mummymiller
      October 3, 2016 / 2:12 pm

      They really are! Thanks for reading x

  13. October 3, 2016 / 3:17 pm

    What a lovely story and your husband looks scarily like Jamie Dornan! Luck you. #bigpinklink

    • mummymiller
      October 3, 2016 / 3:30 pm

      Haha does he?! I’m not sure I see the likeness 😂

  14. October 4, 2016 / 10:53 am

    This is such a gorgeous post. I totally agree with you. There’s nothing like family and it’s a bonus when your family is as loving and close as yours. At the moment, we don’t have much family living close but when I was younger, I lived close to my cousins and we play often. Those were the best childhood memories I have. Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink

    • mummymiller
      October 4, 2016 / 11:34 am

      Thank you! We are very lucky to have them nearby

  15. October 4, 2016 / 3:30 pm

    Love this post and so true, you see your parents in such a different light since becoming parents yourself – you have no idea of the sacrifices they make for you.#sharethebloglove #bloggerclubuk

  16. October 6, 2016 / 5:41 pm

    So sorry to hear about your dad and half sister. It is lovely that you have supportive family around you x #KCACOLS

  17. October 7, 2016 / 7:49 pm

    Aw I loved reading this, you could really feel the love you feel for your family through your words. I love finding out about other people and their families as I am very close to mine too. I agree family is incredibly important and it’s great for our children to grow up surrounded by that additional level of love.
    Really heartwarming xx

    #bigpinklink

  18. October 7, 2016 / 8:03 pm

    This is a gorgeous post! One I’ve been thinking abut writing myself! My family mean everything to me and I feel so lucky to have the, close by! Defiantly agree with cherishing them!

    #bigpinklink

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